Let’s be honest about it: sex can be really weird. There are sights, sounds and even smells that we never expected from the ideas movies gave us about the big event. These happenings can seem a little awkward but in reality, they are completely normal functions of the human body or side effects of a sexual encounter. There’s no reason to be let something normal affect the great time that sex can be. Here are five things you never need to feel embarrassed about during sex.
1. The Faces You Make
Every girl has been mid-throes of passion and realized they weren’t making the most attractive face. All this facial contortion means is that you’re enjoying your time and everything feels good. Focusing on trying to rearrange your face is only going to cause you to feel self-conscious or distracted—and talk about a mood-killer.
Unlike a fart (which can and does happen during sex too!), a queef is simply the release of air that has been trapped in the vagina. This air can get forced in during penetrative sex and when it comes out it creates a noise similar to a fart. The only reason this is occurring is because you’re having sex in the first place, so don’t let it ruin your experience. Ignore it, laugh it off or do whatever you need to to sail right past it.
3. Your Body
We could preach about how you should love your body (which you have every right to do) but the truth is that it’s easier said than done. When negative self-talk arises when you bare your body in front of your partner, tame it in the moment by remembering that this person has chosen to have sex with you, fully knowing the kind of body they have. It’s not worth spending the whole time worrying about a roll of fat when you lean to the left or how your butt looks from a certain angle.
4. The Wet Spot
Women’s bodies self-lubricate when they are turned on. This is nothing to be disgusted about—it’s your vagina doing exactly what it’s supposed to do for your protection and pleasure. Your body is literally doing its job to make sex more enjoyable for you, and what is embarrassing about that?
5. Saying No
You reserve the right to say no whenever you want during a sexual encounter. There’s no embarrassment in stopping a sexual encounter or not wanting to participate in a certain position or fantasy. If you’re asked to try something you’re not interested in, decline and decide whether you’re ready to leave the situation all together. That is your right every single time, and any worthy partner won’t cast guilt or shame on you for that.