Pre-BF, it was just the two of you. Once you get into a relationship though, it can be easy to let your friendship fall a bit off to the side in order to grow your new relationship. This can end up really hurting your friend and also hurting you in the long run.
We know how important your friendship is to you so we have five tips that can help you maintain it—even when the honeymoon stage has you feeling all heart-eye emoji over your new boo.
1. Make Sure to Check-In
A simple text or Snap every few days can go a long way in keeping a friendship feeling connected. Doing this will remind your bestie that you care about what’s going on in their life and that they are on your mind.
2. Don’t Always Double Plan
If you make plans with your bestie, don’t always have it before or after you have plans with your new beau. You don’t want to make your friend feel like they’re just a way to waste time around your other “more important” plans.
3. Make an Effort to Plan
Make sure that your bestie isn’t the only one actively trying to make plans in the friendship. Every once in a while, you can be the one that asks them to hang out. Schedule dates with your friend the same way you schedule your dinner dates with BF, and remind her that you haven’t forgotten about your special bottomless mimosa brunch place.
4. Don’t Pity Her
If your friend is single and you now have a relationship, that doesn’t give you the right to make her feel bad about her relationship status (or lack thereof) or her decisions about romance. Being slut-shamed by a newly attached friend is a massive bummer and could end up destroying your relationship, even if you only meant to offer some “friendly advice.”
5. Remember Who Will Be There For You
Your new significant other might be great and your relationship might be going perfectly, but remember that friendships usually last longer than a relationship. Don’t be the zombie friend who rises out of her grave once your relationship ends looking to be consoled.
Friendships and relationships are the same in that they need to be tended to. Just because there is a long history of depth and caring in a friendship doesn’t mean that you can walk away from it for a while and expect it to stay the same. It takes work, just like any other relationship. Including that new one that has you all doe-eyed and swooning!
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