When you turn 25, something happens. You’re no longer a kid—that classification ended with your college career—and not everyone is willing to consider you a full-fledged grown up just yet. Teens don’t get your references from when you were their age. Some friends are married with kids, and others are partying like they’re 21. It’s a really weird age.
You might also find yourself not at the point in life you thought you’d be, and that can cause some major stress. How can you makeover your mid-twenties into the life you want?
Just breathe. Maybe you’re not the CEO of a major company or married with 2.5 kids and a dog…yet. Realize that it’s okay if you haven’t met all of the milestones 15-year-old you thought you’d meet by the time you hit 25. Life doesn’t follow a prescribed plan, nor should it. Take stock of where you are now and where you want to end up, but don’t worry if your life didn’t take the path you thought you wanted in high school. The future could actually be better than what you’ve imagined!
Get moving. What have you always wanted to do but were afraid to take a chance on? You’re over 25 now, which gives you a new kind of power. What do you really, really want? Figure it out and go get it. Now is the time to make plans to move to NYC or get your first tattoo or write that novel you’ve always talked about. Apply for every job you want, or write the business plan for your own start-up. If you don’t do it, who will? If not now, when?
Let it go. Your exes suck. (We know because ours do too.) Let go of those old grudges and move on. If you see someone from your past on your way to the top, just smile and say hi. We know Taylor Swift does, so why shouldn’t you? Recognize that you learned from those past experiences with terrible exes and bad friends, let them go and keep going forward.
Don’t settle. Your mom wants you to get married and have kids now and why don’t you just give that one nice neighbor boy from your childhood a chance now that your eggs are about to expire? Wrong. If you’re not into him, you don’t have to “give him a chance.” You have to live with your decisions for the rest of your life, so make sure that whatever you decide to do is something that you, and you alone, truly want for your life. There’s no need to rush into a relationship or choosing a job you might hate just because it pays well and impresses all of the wrong people. You’re the one who has to live with these choices, so choose them for yourself.
How have you made over your life since turning 25? Let us know in the comments!