My girlfriends are either happily taken, a few steps away from a proposal or have been single forever. It seems to me nobody is dating anymore, and I’ve heard (and thought) it’s impossible to meet someone new way too many times.
But new couples are always pairing off. So where do they meet? Are there any more stories of boy-meets-girl that don’t include any devices, or is the meet-cute a thing of the past? Has the offline dating died? I asked three girls to share their stories of meeting their SO IRL—take note! (I know I will.)
School Friends First
“I met my boyfriend in freshmen year in college,” says Sonia, 23. “We were in the same department, and that’s a small one, so most of us studied and went out together in the beginning. I did like him at the time, and he liked me back, but as it happens, we were both taken at the time, so we were off-limits. And so it went for a couple of years.
“Fast forward to senior year, I started going out with the same lot again and luckily, this time we were single. Turned out the spark was there all the time, but it just waited for the right moment. And it really proved to be the rightest of them all! We’re now living together and this is by far the best relationship I’ve ever had.”
We asked Sonia if the internet had ever been involved in their dating. “He might have liked two or three of my posts in years,” she laughs. “I actually think it was better this way. No Facebook chat, no imagining what the other person might be like and how they would behave. Everything was pretty straightforward from day one. Besides, he’s way more interesting live and doesn’t really like to engage in online conversations. All he ever sends me is a thumbs-up.”
Terri, 26, met her boyfriend through mutual friends. “We’ve actually known each other for ages because we share a lot of friends. But I knew he’d been in a serious relationship so I’d never thought of him that way. I don’t even think we ever actually talked.
“Then suddenly we ended up talking at a random party for hours, and that’s when the first thoughts of him crept up on me. A few months later, we celebrated New Year’s with our friends and that’s when he saw me trying to open a bottle of wine—unsuccessfully—and approached me offering help. We talked a lot again. After the party I thought he’s just a womanizer, but when a few days later I told my friends I wouldn’t be coming to an event because I was sick, he sent me a message asking how I was. That turned into a lot of chatting, but it wasn’t before long that he asked me So… is there a way a man can reach you beside Facebook? We agreed on a date, and I cannot remember ever having been SO nervous! It went really great. Well, I was talking much more than I usually do, so at one point he just laughed and kissed me. We’ve been going strong ever since.”
We asked Terri if she thinks they would have ended up together if there wasn’t so much Facebook chat in the beginning. “Definitely! Maybe it would have been slower, but we’d get there eventually. Actually, the crucial point was that New Year’s Eve party. Without it, I don’t think any social network would ever have helped us.”
Location, Location, Location
The story of Sarah, 23, meeting her boyfriend, sounds like a rom-com. They work together—but not only that, they also live in the same building. “We met at work,” she says. How come they didn’t know they were neighbors?! “We just didn’t. It only occurred to us when we noticed we took the same walking route to work and back home. So we started walking together.
“Soon we were watching movies and TV shows and spending more and more time together. Actually, people at work say they knew we would become a couple even before we did! It eventually happened at an open-air festival. Nobody was surprised. When I messaged my friend telling her, she was like Oh, what else is new.”
The moral of the story? If you’re on the lookout, literally be on the lookout. You never know all the people your friends know, even if you know them by their name. You never know who hides behind a face you meet too often, and you can never meet too many people. But of course, never forget to nurture your single soul and be a Feather girl who can be just as happy when she’s alone.
How did you meet your last SO? We’d love to hear! Tell us your story at @feather_mag on Twitter!