Engagement fever tends to start somewhere around the mid-twenties. Your best friends, cousins, neighbors, even Facebook friends you aren’t even sure how you know are getting engaged. New announcements are everywhere and if you are single, it might make you worry and wonder whether or not you are “on track” with your own life. While finding a partner to share your life with can definitely be a positive goal for your future, it should absolutely not bring down your present. Being single can be such a beautiful time in any girl’s life, and it is a time that should be celebrated rather than wished away.
One of the perks of being single is the fact that you can literally do anything. Yes, anything! This includes, but is not limited to, sleeping in the middle of the bed every single night, moving to a new city on a complete whim, being as messy (or as clean) as you please at home, consuming as much bad reality TV as you can humanly handle—the list goes on and on. Being single is the time in your life where you can live with a healthy dose of selfishness, and it is absolutely okay to do so. This chance to live on your terms and your terms alone won’t last forever, so you have every right and reason to cash in on it right now!
All that aside, arguably the greatest benefit of being single is the opportunity to really start to understand who you are and what you want out of life—again, on your own terms. You get to explore these questions without direct or even presumed input from your partner. What are your goals and ambitions? What can you do to make those into a reality? If you want to travel to Europe, you can pick up and go anytime you want. Or, you can sink everything you have into your job to ensure those extra hours will get you that promotion you’ve been wanting. With no outside opinions or preferences to cloud your way, or another set of ambitions you have to consider alongside your own, you are free to pursue your goals in whatever way works for you. In doing this, you never know where you might end up. And it could be someplace better than you could ever have imagined.
There is no “right” or “normal” time to get engaged or married. Some girls find “The One” in college, and others could be well into their thirties, forties or eighties before they feel compelled to tie the knot. So all the better to value your time alone just as much as you value your time in a relationship. Getting to know yourself as a single person will do nothing but benefit you once you become committed to another. If you appreciate every step of your journey, you are sure to end up right where you are supposed to be.
Tell us, Feather Girls, what are your favorite perks of being single? Tweet us at @feather_mag to let us know!