I’ve gone on and on about how much I love dating apps. My last relationship was with a guy that I met through Tinder. Lately though, I’ve found that dating apps have begun to bring more pain into my life than joy. I didn’t enjoy the way that they made me feel anymore. The only thing I could think to do was to take a break from them for a while until I felt like I could handle them again.
I’ve always had pride in the fact that I’ve never felt worried about my prospects of finding the right person for me. There was always the thought that eventually I will find someone who can give me what I need from a romantic relationship and treat me the way I deserve to be treated. My biggest problem of late was that dating apps made me start thinking that maybe I didn’t have a chance in finding that.
That isn’t saying that I think there’s something wrong with me. I think there’s something wrong in the culture that dating apps have created. More and more, I get the wonderful lines of “Wanna have sex?” or a classless joke about how someone wants to have sex with me before they know anything about me. I used to be able to shrug it off or laugh about it with my friends, but with that becoming the more common interactions I have, it makes me worry.
On the other hand, I will match with people who I then talk to for days, but when I suggest meeting up I get the presumptuous response of “I’m not looking for anything right now.” Don’t even get me started about what I think about people who jump to conclusions or assume that a date means you want to marry them. But, again, getting these responses have taken a toll on my hope for the future.
With all of these instances adding up and not enough good instances to counteract them, they had to go. Yes, I do get bored when watching TV and want to start swiping again but overall I feel happy and hopeful again. Of course, I’m not to a point where I don’t think I’ll ever use dating apps again, especially with pretty much everyone I know on them. For now though, I’m going to try it the old fashioned way and meet people in the real world. It may end up being just as frustrating a method as the apps, but maybe our parents and grandparents actually had it figured out before we brought technology into the dating mix.
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